I’m Nora. I recently finished my Master’s in Clinical Psychology in Los Angeles and am on my journey to becoming a licensed therapist. I started this blog as a way for myself and all who read it to develop a greater sense of self and, through doing so, become happier. I believe exploring your likes and dislikes, taking time for self-care, and accepting the outcomes of self-discoveries can decrease depression, anxiety, and anger and lead to a happier life.
How do I know this?
Well, at one point, I was like the client mentioned in my first post. I molded myself to be like others, hoping they would like and accept me if I acted like them. I was able to get surface-level acquaintances and spark-less relationships through this method. I wasn’t necessarily content with this social life but I didn’t know any differently. Then, I met someone who finally showed me undying love and affection…as long as I acted exactly the way he wanted me to. Thus began my first and only emotionally abusive relationship, complete with name-calling, control over who I talked to and what I wore, and psychological punishment for going against the rules. I put up with this for over 2 years. And then one day, something inside me clicked and I knew I couldn’t do it anymore. I broke up with him and deliberately stayed single for the next 4 years. They were the best years of my life. I met an amazing group of girlfriends with whom I developed deep, close bonds. I decided on a career path that I was really interested in. I found out that I love chicken parmesan and hate football.
Since finding myself initially and really coming into my own, I’ve started my career, maintained my friendships, and moved across the country. I’m engaged and finally in a relationship that’s healthy and that promotes individual growth. However, there’s always room for more self-discovery. I’ve spent the past 2 years engrossed in psychological theories and running from jobs to classes. I’ve emerged from the abyss of grad school wondering if maybe I’ve lost myself a little again.
I’m starting the process over and plan to make it as accessible as possible to everyone. Come along for the journey! It’s going to be a wild ride. 🙂